Does Being Nice Breed Success?

There is an old saying “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you”. As a child growing up in a Judeo Christianity I was taught it was virtuous to help the widows and the orphans and giving to those who cannot help themselves, and to give in secret without receiving recognition for our giving.

For the most part of my life I’ve tried to treat people the way I would want to be treated. But, I did it because I believed it was the right thing to do, not because I thought it had anything to do with my own prosperity.

I saw absolutely no correlation between offering random acts of kindness and me getting rich; that is, I didn’t see the direct connection until now.

Now I know that these random acts of kindness are seeds to prosperity. This correlation took me half a lifetime to discover and decades of searching for the real reasons why some people are successful and others are not. Decades of observing good people struggle to make ends meet while watching ruthless and corrupt people succeed.

It took two decades of sacrificing, two decades of building a corporate career, two decades of building up a business and accumulating millions of dollars in wealth. And a few moments of watching it all disappear in the blink of an eye; all of this and I still did not really know why some are successful and others are not. I mistakenly thought it had to do with hard work.

A couple years ago I had the privilege of meeting John Assaraf, then a recent star of the movie The Secret. He gave a talk at a corporate convention in New Orleans where I was a guest author to do a book signing for my book, along with another star of The Secret James Ray. John spoke about the correlation between our beliefs and the results we get in life, specifically that we can direct the result we get in life with our thoughts and beliefs. His talk resonated with me and I knew he was on to something powerful

A little over a year later John’s book The Answer was published and I bought a copy to read. In this book John shares scientific evidence suggesting that our subconscious mind sees nearly unlimited opportunities in the world around us. Our subconscious mind sees and hears and knows millions of times more things than we can consciously be aware of.

IN other words our subconscious sees and hears opportunity everyday to be happy, wealthy and free but we may never consciously be aware of any of it, if we don’t know how our subconscious communicates with our conscious mind.

I’ve seen a demonstration where a group of people in an audience are asked to watch a 30 second video, yet 50% or more of the audience always misses a major item on the screen right in front of their eye. I remember when I first experienced it I was blown away by the significance of this truth. Because, it showed that very real things are happening to me every day to which I might be completely oblivious.

I’ve since learned that we only see about 2% of what is going on right in front of us and we only see what our subconscious wants us to see. Our subconscious filter has the job of blocking out 98% of everything it sees going on around us. The problem is, our subconscious mind blocks out many wonderful opportunities that could make us rich, happy, or successful.

I knew it was true, but I struggled to understand how to actually reprogram my subconscious mind to let all the good stuff through especially the opportunities to create success. I didn’t figure it out until I came across another book a couple years later that gave me the answer.

It was a book I had read three and a have years earlier and when I read it the first time I knew it contained keys to understanding how to create success, but again, like so many books it did not give me all the pieces of the puzzle that I needed to make it work in my life.

It was not until three and a half years later when I read it for the second time that all the pieces of the puzzle came together. Suddenly, I realized why everything I had been taught in Sunday school was far more important to me than I had ever realized.

The final piece of the puzzle came to me when I read, for the second time, a book titled The Diamond Cutter by Geshe Michael Roach. The Diamond Cutter uses different vocabulary than used in The Answer, but they are speaking about the same phenomena.

The Diamond Cutter suggests that the way we perceive the world around us dependent entirely upon imprints cast upon our subconscious mind. An imprint of kindness helps us see people being kind. An imprint of greed causes us to see greedy people, especially greedy toward us. We cannot have a perception about anything in life unless we have first projected that same imprint onto another person.

In other words, if we ever perceive someone who is trying to manipulate us to get what they want, it can only be perceived by us if we have sometime in our past manipulated someone else in the same way. And we cannot feel love from another person unless we have projected that same love to another person sometime in our past. What goes around comes around; karma.

On the surface this seems obvious; if I am good to you, you will likely be good back to me, if I am mean to you, then you might be mean back to me. But that is a shallow and false interpretation of what The Diamond Cutter is suggesting.

The reason we must do good acts of kindness to others is not so much for the benefit of the person we are helping, although that is a great side effect. The purpose of doing good to others is because those are the seeds we must plant to make our own imprints upon our own subconscious mind in order that we may then get the result we want in our own life.

In other words, if you want to be promoted in your career it cannot happen until you plant that imprint onto your subconscious mind. And the way you do that is to promote someone else first. For example if you are a supervisor hoping to be promoted into upper management then promote one of the people you supervise. Before you know it you will be promoted.

Now expand that concept to all areas of your life. Think about the list of everything you want and then ask yourself what seed you will have to plant in order to get what you want.

WHEN YOU WANT THIS THEN DO THIS

When you want more money Give money to others
When you want a new car Help someone else get a new car
When you want your business to succeed Help someone in that same line of business succeed (i.e. especially your competition)
When you want to keep your house Help someone else keep their house
When you want a job Help another person find a job
If you want to make a sale Help another person make a sale in the same line of work as you.
If you want more free time Help those around you to have more free time (i.e. those you supervise)
If you wish people were more reliable Be more reliable to those around you
If you want more harmony in your life Project more harmony to others

If you wonder why you don’t have all the things you want in life, all you have to do is ask yourself what seeds you are planting that are causing all the things you want to stay away. If you wonder why no one is buying your product, just ask yourself, how stingy have you been to those around you? If you are not getting promoted, ask yourself who have you not promoted that deserved to be. If people are not reliable and keep letting you down, ask yourself how are you not being reliable to those around you and how are you letting them down.

Only now after half a lifetime and countless failures and struggles do I understand the deep meaning of the teachings I learned when I was a little boy sitting in Sunday school class. I understand why blessing those who curse me is important, not for their benefit but for mine. I understand why I should help the orphans and the widows and do unto others as I would have them do unto me. Not just for them, but also, and especially for me.

On the surface it sounds like a good moral way for anyone to live. But the profound magic is in understanding how these random acts of kindness will unlock our own subconscious mind to guarantee these same random acts of kindness will grow from the seeds we plant and then come flooding back into our own life a thousand times larger. Not because the people we influence will do something good back to us; not at all.

No, we must do random acts of kindness, especially the exact same things we want done to us in any given time of our life to plant that exact imprint onto our subconscious mind. Then when our all knowing subconscious mind sees opportunities that align with the imprint we created, it will be passed through to our conscious awareness. And suddenly we see a world of opportunity and success right in front of our eyes that we never saw before.

Do something good for your neighbor, not because you want them to do something good back to you, but do it knowing that someone will walk into your life next month and do something ten times bigger for you.

Go ahead and give the employee of the month award to one of the people you supervise, not because you need anything back from them. Do it to plant the imprint inside you so that in one month a corporate executive will fly in from out of town and give you a promotion for doing a fabulous job managing your team.

Donate $100 to a charity; not so you can get a tax write off. Do it because you know you are planting a seed; making an imprint of financial giving that will enable you to recognize an opportunity next month to discover a financial opportunity worth a thousand times more than the seed you planted.

And if you don’t have any money to give don’t worry, this law has nothing to do with the physical transfer of money it has everything to do with your thought process and the intent you project onto your subconscious mind. The imprint is an imprint of intention. In other words developing the intention of what you would do if you had the money to help another is just as beneficial to you even if you cannot follow through and actually give the money.

The act of a wealthy person who gives no thought to donating $100,000 to the local charity in order that he may receive his name prominently on a brick over the lobby door will do nothing to gain him success because the seed he planted was not one of generosity but rather of gaining recognition. Because of that, he will receive exactly the seed he planted; he will receive recognition; not wealth.

Likewise if you have no money to give, don’t worry about the amount. Even if all you have is a penny, go ahead and give it to someone in need. The amount it completely irrelevant; what matters is understanding that the one cent you have is a seed and if planted along with your conscious awareness of what you are doing, expecting it to grow then it must come back to you a hundred or thousand times whatever you gave.

Give and it will be given to you, a good measure pressed down, and shaken together; it will be poured upon you.

Article By:
Paul McCormick
Best Selling Author of Secrets of the Millionaire Inside
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